Is Love at First Sight a Real Thing?
The Debate Over Love at First Sight
From Holly Ashworth, former About.com Guide
Listen to enough pop songs and watch enough romantic movies, and youre bound to start believing that love at first sight happens all the time. But does it exist in the real world, between real people?
Like so much about love, the question of love at first sight cant be answered objectively. But Ill do my best to answer it here in the most helpful way.
Is Your Mind Playing Tricks on You?
Have you ever seen someone and instantly felt attracted to every part of them, including their personality (even though you havent even talked to them yet)? You might be quick to call it love at first sight, but its probably what psychologists call the attractiveness halo effect. When you see someone who looks great, your brain sometimes jumps to the conclusion that their personality must be great, too.
We all know that not everyones looks and personalities match up. Some attractive people are total jerks, and some of the best people in the world arent what youd necessarily think of as hot. So the halo effect is really just an illusion. Your sudden feelings of love might go away as soon as you get to know the person better.
Love: More than Just Looks
I will share a quick view on this subject (my view).
I believe love is not a feeling at all. It is a decision. You love people because you choose to.
I agree with the writer above about the stories that people write. We all have created what we consider to be the best relationship for us (in our mind). The closer a person stays to that story, we call it love. The further they move away from our story, we say we fell out of love.
Your stories create your feelings.
Write negative stories about someone. You dont like them. Write positive stories about someone. You like them. That is why I hope no one loves me based on societies description of love because that type of love is based on emotions and emotions change like the wind.
It aint right. It aint wrong. Its just my opinion.
Ron Simplified Myers
All this information is in more detail in my book that I am writing.